I’ve noticed a study has made the news, from which researchers deduce that spanking toddlers makes them more aggressive a couple of years later. It’s called passing on the hit. While I don’t find spanking sinister, I can envision a scenario in which it might be sinister. If you spank a child while saying things, you might want to be very conscious of what you say. You might be implanting hypnotic suggestions.
I’ve long found it fascinating that there is one way in which hypnosis can make someone do what is against their will and values, even to the point of their own destruction. It’s called Pain Drug Hypnosis.
It was discovered in about 1950-51, that while hypnotic suggestion as normally practiced does not work to make a person go against core values, it can do so in combination with administering drugs and applying beatings. Being a hypnotist I found this fascinating. You could get out of your car and be knocked out with a bag of sand, given an injection, and then given hypnotic suggestions.
These would cease to be suggestions and become commands when you began to apply pain. It would put you in the same relationship to the hypnotist as small child to a parent when a whipping or spanking is the method of securing compliance. The drug would put you into an altered state, separate from the ego identity.
So in the context of a loss of the critical faculties of the intellect by deconstructing the ego with a drug, then applying a telephone book or a Taser, you get total compliance. And one thing you can get compliance on is that there is no memory of the session. You wake up in your own bed and remember, as you were instructed to remember, that you came in and went to bed normally. Would this really work? In theory it would.
When I read about this the first thing that popped into my mind was that spanking or whipping a little child can work the same way. If the child is very young there isn’t a differentiated ego and no critical faculties to circumvent. This suggests one should be aware of what he or she is saying to a child when administering physical punishment, at the very least. Regardless of what is being said, the child is learning how to use force instead of negotiation as a convenient time saver with somebody less powerful than him or herself.
In adults a parental complex often takes over and the ego just isn’t strong enough to assert itself at a moment of confusion or fear. The person in which this is taking place doesn’t know that, and assumes the entire scenario is himself or herself, making choices. But there is no choice involved. The part that might make choices has been rendered passive. Plus, if there is real anger in the parent, the child might fear being torn apart. This is the worst fear humans suffer, much more intense than the fear of death.
And one last point, one method of inducing hypnosis is the introduction of an authority figure. The belief in the authority bypasses the critical faculties. For example a police uniform and badge can create a trance state, so that a command will be followed without question. If needed a Taser or blackjack can be added to force passivity. Doctors wear white coats for a reason, and in the mother church, the further up the organizational structure you go, the more impressive the outfits.
So the child is already confronted with an authority figure, which is inductive and I suspect that the fear of being torn apart can be more effective than the actual physiological pain. Milton Erickson estimated that most pain is about thirty percent physiological and seventy percent emotional. So imagine that an angry man grabs a little kid and starts spanking him, while saying, “You’re never going to amount to a goddamned thing.” Voila. Pain drug hypnosis.
“Why did you take to drinking and whoring, Petey?”
“Damned if I know, Red.”
I don’t think anybody who’s read Alice Miller ever thinks about children and adults the same way again. The way in which they relate is a fascinating study, because it is largely unconscious. By the time a child has a developed ego the early suggestions are set. A child is seven before reaching the stage of development at which most mammals are born. Most of the development is outside the womb because the size of the head prohibits a fully formed brain’s passing through the birth canal. As it is the head has to flex.
So it is expected that if pain drug hypnosis works by displacing the ego and applying pain with suggestion, the same set of factors will accomplish the same result in a two or three year old child being simultaneous spanked and given suggestions. I saw that instantly when I first read about pain drug hypnosis, many years ago. I also realized that the application of pain on child can be transference of the parent’s pain. In an adult, pain is often transformed into anger as a way to avoid experiencing the pain. The anger is preferred by the adult and the child has no choice but to take the rejected emotion, which is fear.
This is called substitute emotion. Anger makes one feel powerful, while fear makes one feel vulnerable. Anger comes up as the parental complex in this instance and the fledgling child ego goes passive. The parent and child are then in a symbiotic relationship. Maybe the most famous one was between Norman Bates and his mother. He had a mother complex. Actually, it had him. He couldn’t tell what was him and what was mother because his ego was passive to her when another woman threatened the original symbiosis.





